BDSM for beginners

BDSM for beginners

You’ve heard of BDSM allright.  But we’re sure the most of you did’t know that BDSM actually are 3 abbreviations.   And that’s where the misconceptions begin…  BDSM is (a whole lot) more than just hitting your partner with a whip.  You have no idea…

Let’s start easy.
BDsm, BD stands for Bondage and Discipline
bDSm, DS stands for Dominance and Submission
bdSM, SM stands for Sadism and Masochism

Already you’ve noticed that BDSM is a lot more than just the SM part.
Not everybody who “practices” BDSM is necessarily into all three of those disciplines.

Most people find an entrance point in one of those disciplines, and as they progress and move deeper into it, usually discover they have also taken an interest in one or more of the other disciplines.   Let me give you an example by telling you this story about John & Mary.

John & Mary are just another completely normal vanilla couple, very happy with eachother & having an healthy sex-life.  One day, whilst having sex, John was just a little rougher than normal, holding Mary down while he was fucking her.  Afterwards, Mary told John that she actually really enjoyed that part and that the restraining really had turned her on.  John decided to take things to the next level.  He thought about tying Mary to the bed, so they bought some ropes and did some googling about tying up your partner.  A few hours later  John and Mary were completely overwhelmed by the new world that had revealed itself in front of their eyes.  They learned about Shibari, Kinbaku, suspensions and lots and lots more.  They watched youtube videos about how to tie a perfect knot.  They bought eachother books about bondage, they read about the dangers, the do’s and do nots, and the more they learned, the more they felt like they knew nothing.  Experimenting with the ropes however, was    – to be continued –